Thursday, March 29, 2007

Being twenty something...

I happen to read this brilliant piece on Quarter life crisis, every year, whenever I turn a year older and it somehow seems to make a lot of sense to me each time I read it! I had posted this last year too and lot of you guys had left comments saying you could associate a lot with it... in case you have missed out reading this, then it is really worth a read!!

"Being twenty something..."

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that
there are manythings about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two,
but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends
that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you
would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find
yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have
certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your
list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and
then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.

You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy
and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that
the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such
damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent
enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but
love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because
you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to lookcheap. Getting wasted andacting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself... and while winning the race would be
great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can
to figure this whole thing out.

3 comments:

Unknown said...

couldn't agree more! describes the current state of my mind :)

Kulki said...

I had blogged about exactly the same stuff on my b'day last month. (amitk.livejournal.com) I didnt know that its officially called "quarter life crisis" till someone commented on the blog!!
Just keep wondering if this phenomenon is unique to just we Indians.

ZachB said...

I am new to the blog thing and I stumbled across this and said to myself that is me completly. That is pretty much what I described in my first post. I think I am right in the middle of a "quarter like crisis" and trying to make it better day by day.